Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treats you right, and forget the ones that don't. And believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it, if it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it would be easy, they just promise that it would be worth it.
Monday, June 27, 2011
7 Ways to Motivate Yourself
Whether you're looking for a new job, trying to make your current one better, or planning a career transition, you'll need a healthy dose of motivation. Without discipline and will, your dreams and ambitions never come to life, turning even the best intentions into dust.
Here are seven ways to motivate yourself, so you can pick and choose the ones that work best for you:
Find the why. When we set out to do something, it's important to keep the why in the front of your mind. Are you looking for a new job because you dislike your boss? Need more money? Want a shorter commute? Getting where we want to go can be a long journey, so never forget what set you out on the road to begin with. Write down why you're motivated and refer to it often.
[See 10 Tips for Negotiating a Raise.]
Look forward. Pretend you have accomplished your goal. For example, if your goal is to learn a new language to impress a girl, you need to consider if the task is worth taking on--what if she rejects you? View things from multiple perspectives and ensure you are taking worthwhile roads. Once you commit, put the negative scenario out of your mind and concentrate on how good it will feel when you succeed.
Just do it. There's a reason the Nike slogan has endured for more than two decades. In the Data Age, we have so much information available to us at all times that it's easy to get lost in number-crunching oblivion. But there's nothing like rolling up your sleeves and getting started. Think about it: A perfect resume is useless if you don't send out. You'd be better served sending out 10 resumes that are almost perfect than none at all. Rarely are actions an absolute waste of time.
Reward yourself. If your goal is to get a new job, you will need to take action to make a change. Set goals and share them with someone you trust so that you can be held accountable. For example, promise that you'll send out two resumes a week to relevant jobs. If you succeed, reward yourself with a predetermined item. Likewise, if you fail, be sure to carry out a predetermined punishment. Even if a project doesn't feel as if it's worth your time, make it your business to make it worth your time. Otherwise, getting started can feel impossible.
[See How to Position Yourself to Change Careers.]
Think of someone you hate. We all know jealousy and hatred are ugly emotions, but unless you're a Buddhist monastic, they're also a reality. Why not turn something dark into a tremendous motivator? Image the person you dislike taking action while you rest on your laurels? Wouldn't you rather be showered with happiness and rewards? Push yourself to get started--today!
Give yourself choices. Negative self-talk is often a high hurdle we must clear to get ourselves pumped up to do something we dread. Remember: You don't have to, you want to. This simple thought-swap can make any task more palatable.
Break it up. What sounds easier? Writing 1,000 words in two hours or writing 125 words in 15 minutes? Breaking your task into smaller parts will help you get started.
Here are seven ways to motivate yourself, so you can pick and choose the ones that work best for you:
Find the why. When we set out to do something, it's important to keep the why in the front of your mind. Are you looking for a new job because you dislike your boss? Need more money? Want a shorter commute? Getting where we want to go can be a long journey, so never forget what set you out on the road to begin with. Write down why you're motivated and refer to it often.
[See 10 Tips for Negotiating a Raise.]
Look forward. Pretend you have accomplished your goal. For example, if your goal is to learn a new language to impress a girl, you need to consider if the task is worth taking on--what if she rejects you? View things from multiple perspectives and ensure you are taking worthwhile roads. Once you commit, put the negative scenario out of your mind and concentrate on how good it will feel when you succeed.
Just do it. There's a reason the Nike slogan has endured for more than two decades. In the Data Age, we have so much information available to us at all times that it's easy to get lost in number-crunching oblivion. But there's nothing like rolling up your sleeves and getting started. Think about it: A perfect resume is useless if you don't send out. You'd be better served sending out 10 resumes that are almost perfect than none at all. Rarely are actions an absolute waste of time.
Reward yourself. If your goal is to get a new job, you will need to take action to make a change. Set goals and share them with someone you trust so that you can be held accountable. For example, promise that you'll send out two resumes a week to relevant jobs. If you succeed, reward yourself with a predetermined item. Likewise, if you fail, be sure to carry out a predetermined punishment. Even if a project doesn't feel as if it's worth your time, make it your business to make it worth your time. Otherwise, getting started can feel impossible.
[See How to Position Yourself to Change Careers.]
Think of someone you hate. We all know jealousy and hatred are ugly emotions, but unless you're a Buddhist monastic, they're also a reality. Why not turn something dark into a tremendous motivator? Image the person you dislike taking action while you rest on your laurels? Wouldn't you rather be showered with happiness and rewards? Push yourself to get started--today!
Give yourself choices. Negative self-talk is often a high hurdle we must clear to get ourselves pumped up to do something we dread. Remember: You don't have to, you want to. This simple thought-swap can make any task more palatable.
Break it up. What sounds easier? Writing 1,000 words in two hours or writing 125 words in 15 minutes? Breaking your task into smaller parts will help you get started.
Friday, June 24, 2011
Thursday, June 23, 2011
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
B型双子
5月22日～6月21日
性格及气质
B型双子座的你，具有开朗明快的气质，反应灵敏，行动迅速，要你安静下来不动，料比登天还难。对于突发事件的应变能力很不错，而且，你的观察力相当敏锐，不会钻牛角尖。别人或许会觉得你这个人整天穷忙，不知道你葫芦里究竟卖的什么药，可是你能乐在其中。你最大的优点是能屈能伸，绝不因一时受挫而怀忧丧志，虽然常因不同的事件表现不同的反应态度。不过，你所坚持的原则及本质不变。在你的内心深处，随时都保持着冷静、理智，无论遇到重大的事件或行动，仍然能保持客观的分析能力。你的性格可说是知性重于感性，理智胜过情感。如果深究B型双子座的内心，你将会发现奇妙的一件事，在你如此果断的个性中，竟然也隐藏了优柔寡断的一面。原因是可能在于你过于客观，在分析事情时，很少流于偏颇，肯定一事的正反两面，也正因如此，你往往难以决定取舍。
此型的你，可以说是具有双重人格，能够非常巧妙运用两种原本是二个完全极端的事情，帮助自己达到目标，并且掌握得当。同时，你的处事方式十分圆滑，又不失原则，确实是无人可及的"两面人"。如果，你是典型的B型双子座，那么，你一定是个好奇心特别重的人，你的探险欲望非常强烈。只是有兴趣的事情，非得亲自参与不可，而且，你的兴趣非常广泛，不限于学校中所学，即使是道听途说，也要打破沙锅问到底。你的头脑相当不错，学得快也记得牢，是个博爱强记的人，对于新住处掌握得快而且准。你拥有得天独厚的口才和文采，常可以把所学融会贯通，再以不凡的口才传达给别人，往往比原来事物本身更加生动精彩，而且，你富于幽默及机智，是个很受欢迎的演说者，有人形容B型双子座的人如果当推销员，甚至能说服爱斯基摩人购买冰箱，口才之一流，可见一班。
忠告：说话时三思而行，切勿逞口之快，也应多听取别人的意见。
爱与性的倾向
B型双子座的你，或许由于具有双重性格，在你的内心深处里，可以同时存在着热情与冷淡这两种截然不同的情绪，即使在热恋期你也能客观地分析这段感情，绝不盲目行动，你完全以旁观者的立场，去透视自己的爱情，是属于理智型的情人。或许是太理智的缘故，你常把恋爱当成游戏，一方面也由于敏锐的观察力，使你容易洞悉对方的心理，再加上天生的好奇心，让你觉得跟多位异交往，尝试不同的爱情滋味是件愉快的事，因此，你的爱情很难持久，激情过后便觉厌烦，而目光也很快转移到其他异性身上。其实，说起来，你还真算得上是个无情的人呢。此型的你，似乎很厌恶腻腻的爱情，如果交往的对象是个粘人的橡皮糖，你一定会吓得拔腿就跑。对于爱与不爱，你的决定总是极为爽快，即使失恋了也很难有刻骨铭心的伤感，因为你的下一个目标立刻就会来到你的眼前。B型双子座的人转变实在太快，令人难以捉摸，但一切的转变，都是为了寻找一个理想的伴侣。B型双子座的你，独立而且理智，你谈起恋爱也是如此。但你的独占欲不强，更很少吃醋。在你的观念中，每个人都有选择最适合自己的情人的权利，更换情人，、根本无需向对方说抱歉。即使你的情人在跟你交往的同时，还有其他异性朋友你也不介意，甚至产生激烈的反应，跟情敌大打出手。当然，你也允许自己有这样的行为，同时跟几位异性交往。自由恋爱，无牵无挂是你谈恋爱的最高宗旨。
你是个相当早熟的人，甚至在小学高年级阶段便已对关于"性方面的知识"有所了解，也颇有兴趣，一般而言。B型双子座的你，年纪很轻时便有过性经验。很多时候，B型双子座的人把性爱分得很清楚，不会因为性关系的发生而丧失了理智，在本质上此型的你可以说是性欲不强，通常都能以理智控制情感。
不过，坦白说有时把爱情看成一项"计划"而实行，很难让你品尝到人世的真情，唯有真情才是爱情中最珍贵的。
忠告：过于理智的爱情，有时令人感到"嚼之无味"，而把对方看穿了，也失去了爱情的神秘感，爱情需要浪漫，包容对方的缺点。
婚姻及家庭
对于你来说，结婚并不是你一生中必须经历的过程，婚姻对你而言，无疑是一种羁绊与束缚。只要有个真心的异性朋友，你便已觉得甚为满足，此生无憾了，不会在意形式上的婚姻。因此，此型的你，一旦接受婚姻时，那么，在选择伴侣上，你会考虑能接受你生活方式的对象。而且，你会要求不要对两个人的未来存有太多的期待和要求，否则，你会觉得有违本性，而且感觉承受压力很重，甚至有喘不过气的感觉。如果，你的对象也是B型双子座，则你们两人可要多加协调了以免不是生活秩序大乱，就是生活过于一板一眼，毫无生气，日子过得无法喘息般的紧张。
你可能在年轻的时候，极力排斥过婚姻。可是，B型双子座的人极少是终其一生都保持单身的。原因在于你强烈的好奇心，好奇地想知道有个家的感觉。所以你往往因为一时冲动便走入结婚礼堂，而且抱着试试看，不合再分手的心态。因此，B型双子座的离婚率也偏高。B型双子座的你，以晚婚为宜。所以建议你年纪稍大之后再结婚。等到你的心情感觉较为安定沉稳时，你的婚姻因你的人格渐趋成熟，更为美满而长久。你的观念如果能有所改正，再婚的机会仍是不少。
此外，B型双子座的你，对待孩子如朋友般的贴心，而且非常喜爱结交朋友，跟朋友相处表现得十分宽容，为他人着想，自然地朋友也就多了起来，日子也过得热热闹闹的。你的家庭生活，可能洋溢着一股率真而自由的气氛，在自己拥有完全自由的大前提下，你的对象绝不会是那种依赖、柔弱的人。你们夫妻之间的情意并不深，做丈夫的以工作为生活重心，做妻子的则极少是个纯粹的家庭主妇，而是个有事业心的女性。如果你是B型双子座的女性，那么，在跟婆婆相处时，需特别花费心思，虽不至于需要处处刻意讨婆婆欢心，但避免跟婆婆发生冲突，则绝对有必要，为了一家人的和谐，做某种程度的忍让是值得的。在生活上，你应格外留意，千万不要选择居住在交通不便、行动不自由的地方。
忠告：最好能选择可接受自己生活方式的伴侣，并且，都不要对婚姻有太大的期待及要求，否则，婚姻对于你只是一种束缚。
事业与成功
B型双子座的你，如果能在本业之外，再从事一些副业，则不仅副业能做得不错甚至连本业也能跟着发达起来。如果你拥有多种工作，你都能以灵巧的方式应付得宜，但是，你不适合从事刻板，甚至需要一个面对孤独的工作。举例来说，研究工作、手工艺、公务员、银行员等等，这些保守而无趣的工作，绝对无法充分让你发挥及一展才华。而且，B型双子座的人也不会喜欢从事这类工作。
此型你吸收能力极强，新闻记者、广播、公共关系及业务推销，都是不错的选择。和语言有关的职业，也可以考虑，例如，广告方案设计、编辑、律师、播音员、甚至翻译工作都相当适合你。不过千万要记住选择更好的工作环境可以，但是，任性地转换职业则有碍成功的机会。
忠告：多面的尝试绝对有利于你。
金钱及财运
B型双子座的财运特征即是，从事副业将可招致财富，甚至副业所赚的钱比本业还多，这是一种很奇怪的现象。
此型的你，赚钱容易，花钱又快，在本质上你厌恶吝啬小气的人，在你看来，钱财根本是身外之物，过分重视，无疑是一种俗气的表现，当然，演出沉迷于金钱游戏之中，你也不屑为之。不过，挺幸运的一点，你天生拥有一个会精打细算的脑筋，虽然出手大方，但还算懂得节制，不致蚀了老本，让安定生活的基本条件都丧失了。因此，你的财运虽然流动性大，但不安定的因素并不存在其中。
值得一提的是，你广结善缘，赚钱的机会增多，财运也跟着旺盛起来，因此，珍惜跟朋友之间的情缘，保持良好的人际关系相当重要。聪明的你，处处都很灵通，可以试着股票投资，运势不差，相信能大有崭获！
忠告：不要放过每一个可能带来好运的朋友。
性格及气质
B型双子座的你，具有开朗明快的气质，反应灵敏，行动迅速，要你安静下来不动，料比登天还难。对于突发事件的应变能力很不错，而且，你的观察力相当敏锐，不会钻牛角尖。别人或许会觉得你这个人整天穷忙，不知道你葫芦里究竟卖的什么药，可是你能乐在其中。你最大的优点是能屈能伸，绝不因一时受挫而怀忧丧志，虽然常因不同的事件表现不同的反应态度。不过，你所坚持的原则及本质不变。在你的内心深处，随时都保持着冷静、理智，无论遇到重大的事件或行动，仍然能保持客观的分析能力。你的性格可说是知性重于感性，理智胜过情感。如果深究B型双子座的内心，你将会发现奇妙的一件事，在你如此果断的个性中，竟然也隐藏了优柔寡断的一面。原因是可能在于你过于客观，在分析事情时，很少流于偏颇，肯定一事的正反两面，也正因如此，你往往难以决定取舍。
此型的你，可以说是具有双重人格，能够非常巧妙运用两种原本是二个完全极端的事情，帮助自己达到目标，并且掌握得当。同时，你的处事方式十分圆滑，又不失原则，确实是无人可及的"两面人"。如果，你是典型的B型双子座，那么，你一定是个好奇心特别重的人，你的探险欲望非常强烈。只是有兴趣的事情，非得亲自参与不可，而且，你的兴趣非常广泛，不限于学校中所学，即使是道听途说，也要打破沙锅问到底。你的头脑相当不错，学得快也记得牢，是个博爱强记的人，对于新住处掌握得快而且准。你拥有得天独厚的口才和文采，常可以把所学融会贯通，再以不凡的口才传达给别人，往往比原来事物本身更加生动精彩，而且，你富于幽默及机智，是个很受欢迎的演说者，有人形容B型双子座的人如果当推销员，甚至能说服爱斯基摩人购买冰箱，口才之一流，可见一班。
忠告：说话时三思而行，切勿逞口之快，也应多听取别人的意见。
爱与性的倾向
B型双子座的你，或许由于具有双重性格，在你的内心深处里，可以同时存在着热情与冷淡这两种截然不同的情绪，即使在热恋期你也能客观地分析这段感情，绝不盲目行动，你完全以旁观者的立场，去透视自己的爱情，是属于理智型的情人。或许是太理智的缘故，你常把恋爱当成游戏，一方面也由于敏锐的观察力，使你容易洞悉对方的心理，再加上天生的好奇心，让你觉得跟多位异交往，尝试不同的爱情滋味是件愉快的事，因此，你的爱情很难持久，激情过后便觉厌烦，而目光也很快转移到其他异性身上。其实，说起来，你还真算得上是个无情的人呢。此型的你，似乎很厌恶腻腻的爱情，如果交往的对象是个粘人的橡皮糖，你一定会吓得拔腿就跑。对于爱与不爱，你的决定总是极为爽快，即使失恋了也很难有刻骨铭心的伤感，因为你的下一个目标立刻就会来到你的眼前。B型双子座的人转变实在太快，令人难以捉摸，但一切的转变，都是为了寻找一个理想的伴侣。B型双子座的你，独立而且理智，你谈起恋爱也是如此。但你的独占欲不强，更很少吃醋。在你的观念中，每个人都有选择最适合自己的情人的权利，更换情人，、根本无需向对方说抱歉。即使你的情人在跟你交往的同时，还有其他异性朋友你也不介意，甚至产生激烈的反应，跟情敌大打出手。当然，你也允许自己有这样的行为，同时跟几位异性交往。自由恋爱，无牵无挂是你谈恋爱的最高宗旨。
你是个相当早熟的人，甚至在小学高年级阶段便已对关于"性方面的知识"有所了解，也颇有兴趣，一般而言。B型双子座的你，年纪很轻时便有过性经验。很多时候，B型双子座的人把性爱分得很清楚，不会因为性关系的发生而丧失了理智，在本质上此型的你可以说是性欲不强，通常都能以理智控制情感。
不过，坦白说有时把爱情看成一项"计划"而实行，很难让你品尝到人世的真情，唯有真情才是爱情中最珍贵的。
忠告：过于理智的爱情，有时令人感到"嚼之无味"，而把对方看穿了，也失去了爱情的神秘感，爱情需要浪漫，包容对方的缺点。
婚姻及家庭
对于你来说，结婚并不是你一生中必须经历的过程，婚姻对你而言，无疑是一种羁绊与束缚。只要有个真心的异性朋友，你便已觉得甚为满足，此生无憾了，不会在意形式上的婚姻。因此，此型的你，一旦接受婚姻时，那么，在选择伴侣上，你会考虑能接受你生活方式的对象。而且，你会要求不要对两个人的未来存有太多的期待和要求，否则，你会觉得有违本性，而且感觉承受压力很重，甚至有喘不过气的感觉。如果，你的对象也是B型双子座，则你们两人可要多加协调了以免不是生活秩序大乱，就是生活过于一板一眼，毫无生气，日子过得无法喘息般的紧张。
你可能在年轻的时候，极力排斥过婚姻。可是，B型双子座的人极少是终其一生都保持单身的。原因在于你强烈的好奇心，好奇地想知道有个家的感觉。所以你往往因为一时冲动便走入结婚礼堂，而且抱着试试看，不合再分手的心态。因此，B型双子座的离婚率也偏高。B型双子座的你，以晚婚为宜。所以建议你年纪稍大之后再结婚。等到你的心情感觉较为安定沉稳时，你的婚姻因你的人格渐趋成熟，更为美满而长久。你的观念如果能有所改正，再婚的机会仍是不少。
此外，B型双子座的你，对待孩子如朋友般的贴心，而且非常喜爱结交朋友，跟朋友相处表现得十分宽容，为他人着想，自然地朋友也就多了起来，日子也过得热热闹闹的。你的家庭生活，可能洋溢着一股率真而自由的气氛，在自己拥有完全自由的大前提下，你的对象绝不会是那种依赖、柔弱的人。你们夫妻之间的情意并不深，做丈夫的以工作为生活重心，做妻子的则极少是个纯粹的家庭主妇，而是个有事业心的女性。如果你是B型双子座的女性，那么，在跟婆婆相处时，需特别花费心思，虽不至于需要处处刻意讨婆婆欢心，但避免跟婆婆发生冲突，则绝对有必要，为了一家人的和谐，做某种程度的忍让是值得的。在生活上，你应格外留意，千万不要选择居住在交通不便、行动不自由的地方。
忠告：最好能选择可接受自己生活方式的伴侣，并且，都不要对婚姻有太大的期待及要求，否则，婚姻对于你只是一种束缚。
事业与成功
B型双子座的你，如果能在本业之外，再从事一些副业，则不仅副业能做得不错甚至连本业也能跟着发达起来。如果你拥有多种工作，你都能以灵巧的方式应付得宜，但是，你不适合从事刻板，甚至需要一个面对孤独的工作。举例来说，研究工作、手工艺、公务员、银行员等等，这些保守而无趣的工作，绝对无法充分让你发挥及一展才华。而且，B型双子座的人也不会喜欢从事这类工作。
此型你吸收能力极强，新闻记者、广播、公共关系及业务推销，都是不错的选择。和语言有关的职业，也可以考虑，例如，广告方案设计、编辑、律师、播音员、甚至翻译工作都相当适合你。不过千万要记住选择更好的工作环境可以，但是，任性地转换职业则有碍成功的机会。
忠告：多面的尝试绝对有利于你。
金钱及财运
B型双子座的财运特征即是，从事副业将可招致财富，甚至副业所赚的钱比本业还多，这是一种很奇怪的现象。
此型的你，赚钱容易，花钱又快，在本质上你厌恶吝啬小气的人，在你看来，钱财根本是身外之物，过分重视，无疑是一种俗气的表现，当然，演出沉迷于金钱游戏之中，你也不屑为之。不过，挺幸运的一点，你天生拥有一个会精打细算的脑筋，虽然出手大方，但还算懂得节制，不致蚀了老本，让安定生活的基本条件都丧失了。因此，你的财运虽然流动性大，但不安定的因素并不存在其中。
值得一提的是，你广结善缘，赚钱的机会增多，财运也跟着旺盛起来，因此，珍惜跟朋友之间的情缘，保持良好的人际关系相当重要。聪明的你，处处都很灵通，可以试着股票投资，运势不差，相信能大有崭获！
忠告：不要放过每一个可能带来好运的朋友。
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Monday, June 20, 2011
Anandhi Gopinath, On Thursday 16 June 2011, 23:45 SGT
Being in a good mood or feeling happy doesn’t have to be solely a long-term goal — small things you do for yourself every day can make a huge difference in the way you feel.
Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal, but in fact, research shows that happier people are more sociable, likable, healthy, productive and more inclined to help other people. By working to boost your own happiness, you’re making other people happier too.
We’ve come up with nine things you can do to boost your morale and feel good about yourself. Not only will these tasks themselves increase your happiness, but the mere fact that you’ve achieved some concrete goals will boost your mood.
1.Raise your activity level
Pump up your energy and give yourself an endorphin rush. If you’re on the phone, stand up and pace. Take the stairs instead of the lift, put more energy into your voice or even take a brisk 10-minute walk around the office — every little thing helps.
2. Let’s go outside
Research has suggested that light stimulates brain chemicals that improve moods. For an extra boost, get your dose of sunlight first thing in the morning. If you leave for work before sunrise, take a quick break at about 10am and soak in some sunshine — at this hour, sunlight has the maximum amount of vitamin D absorbable by the human body.
3. Reach out
Send an email or call to a friend you haven’t seen in a while, or reach out to someone new. Developing close bonds with other people is one of the most important keys to happiness. When you act in a friendly way, not only will others feel friendlier towards you, but you’ll also strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.
4. Rid yourself of a nagging task
Deal with that insurance problem, purchase something you need, or make that long-postponed appointment with the dentist. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a rush of elation.
5. Create a more serene environment
Outer order contributes to inner peace, so spend some time organising your desk and tackling those piles of paperwork. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizable dent. Set the timer on your phone for 10 minutes and see what you can do.
6. Do a good deed
Introduce two people by email, take a minute to pass along useful information, or deliver some gratifying praise. Simple things that make a huge difference all around.
7. Save someone’s life
Donate some blood or sign up to be an organ donor, and remember to tell your family about your decision. It will make you feel good that you are making a difference to someone else’s life.
8. Act happy
Fake it ‘til you feel it. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile boosts your mood. And if you’re smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable.
9. Learn something new
Think of a subject that you wish you knew more about and spend 15 minutes on the Internet reading about it, or go to a bookstore and buy a book about it. But be honest and pick a topic that really interests you, not something you think you should or need to learn about.
This article appeared on the Live it! page, The Edge Financial Daily, June 3, 2011.
Being in a good mood or feeling happy doesn’t have to be solely a long-term goal — small things you do for yourself every day can make a huge difference in the way you feel.
Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal, but in fact, research shows that happier people are more sociable, likable, healthy, productive and more inclined to help other people. By working to boost your own happiness, you’re making other people happier too.
We’ve come up with nine things you can do to boost your morale and feel good about yourself. Not only will these tasks themselves increase your happiness, but the mere fact that you’ve achieved some concrete goals will boost your mood.
1.Raise your activity level
Pump up your energy and give yourself an endorphin rush. If you’re on the phone, stand up and pace. Take the stairs instead of the lift, put more energy into your voice or even take a brisk 10-minute walk around the office — every little thing helps.
2. Let’s go outside
Research has suggested that light stimulates brain chemicals that improve moods. For an extra boost, get your dose of sunlight first thing in the morning. If you leave for work before sunrise, take a quick break at about 10am and soak in some sunshine — at this hour, sunlight has the maximum amount of vitamin D absorbable by the human body.
3. Reach out
Send an email or call to a friend you haven’t seen in a while, or reach out to someone new. Developing close bonds with other people is one of the most important keys to happiness. When you act in a friendly way, not only will others feel friendlier towards you, but you’ll also strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.
4. Rid yourself of a nagging task
Deal with that insurance problem, purchase something you need, or make that long-postponed appointment with the dentist. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a rush of elation.
5. Create a more serene environment
Outer order contributes to inner peace, so spend some time organising your desk and tackling those piles of paperwork. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizable dent. Set the timer on your phone for 10 minutes and see what you can do.
6. Do a good deed
Introduce two people by email, take a minute to pass along useful information, or deliver some gratifying praise. Simple things that make a huge difference all around.
7. Save someone’s life
Donate some blood or sign up to be an organ donor, and remember to tell your family about your decision. It will make you feel good that you are making a difference to someone else’s life.
8. Act happy
Fake it ‘til you feel it. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile boosts your mood. And if you’re smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable.
9. Learn something new
Think of a subject that you wish you knew more about and spend 15 minutes on the Internet reading about it, or go to a bookstore and buy a book about it. But be honest and pick a topic that really interests you, not something you think you should or need to learn about.
This article appeared on the Live it! page, The Edge Financial Daily, June 3, 2011.
Thank you God..
Thanks for letting TV have a good weekend, that he's Happie..
Thanks for sending Mr Soo to cross my path and helped me to let go of Mr Sim. Thanks for letting Mr Soo be attached such that I don't even have to 猜疑if the chemistry I felt is one or 2 way.
Thanks for helping me to identify the person that I wana be in TV's presence. I need to hold on to that persona when I'm w TV. As 38 say, who gave me the 小鹿乱撞feeling? And thus I know..
Thanks for letting me have such a wonderful and fulfilling weekend.
As I was telling 38, this has been an exceptionally good year for me.. Career, family and friends are all turning out good. Made the decision to craft the career I really want, my Sis and bro are finally on speaking terms after my grandma death, looking forward to finding a new house for us soon. R/s with my SACYS are good, r/s with all other friends are stronger, and I continually receive affirmation from friends that I've been a good friend! I've removed most of the toxic relations in my heart and have made a decision to become someone who is Happie, gracious, serious and focus with my work , and playful and naughty for everything else. I love it when 38 told me she can feel that I'm at peace with myself, and how Mr Soo laughed at me when he said that I can even look Happie while checking my HP. And I'm really glad that I can tell 38 and Mr Soo that I'm very Happie with my life now.. I've let go of pinning for Mr Sim, and just wish for his happiness daily. I'm really grateful for all these things that have happened to me, and i know that it's You, God, who gave all these happiness to me! =)
Pls look after TV and bless him w a wonderful week..
Thanks for letting TV have a good weekend, that he's Happie..
Thanks for sending Mr Soo to cross my path and helped me to let go of Mr Sim. Thanks for letting Mr Soo be attached such that I don't even have to 猜疑if the chemistry I felt is one or 2 way.
Thanks for helping me to identify the person that I wana be in TV's presence. I need to hold on to that persona when I'm w TV. As 38 say, who gave me the 小鹿乱撞feeling? And thus I know..
Thanks for letting me have such a wonderful and fulfilling weekend.
As I was telling 38, this has been an exceptionally good year for me.. Career, family and friends are all turning out good. Made the decision to craft the career I really want, my Sis and bro are finally on speaking terms after my grandma death, looking forward to finding a new house for us soon. R/s with my SACYS are good, r/s with all other friends are stronger, and I continually receive affirmation from friends that I've been a good friend! I've removed most of the toxic relations in my heart and have made a decision to become someone who is Happie, gracious, serious and focus with my work , and playful and naughty for everything else. I love it when 38 told me she can feel that I'm at peace with myself, and how Mr Soo laughed at me when he said that I can even look Happie while checking my HP. And I'm really glad that I can tell 38 and Mr Soo that I'm very Happie with my life now.. I've let go of pinning for Mr Sim, and just wish for his happiness daily. I'm really grateful for all these things that have happened to me, and i know that it's You, God, who gave all these happiness to me! =)
Pls look after TV and bless him w a wonderful week..
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薛凱琪《不要愛我》詞解
Author: 小寒03.06.2011
“心動時，我們想關起來的，是理智的忠告，還是現實的阻礙？”
前幾個月的某一天，
我接到一封電郵，
附件是一首Demo.
用itunes打開時，
在Name一欄中寫著Khalil Fong。
細讀電郵的內容，
更覺得開心，
因為演唱者將是薛凱琪。
曾聽房祖名和我聊起剛合作拍完電影《分手說愛你》的Fiona，
便覺得這位獅子座的女生很有個性，
若能為她寫歌詞，
將會很有挑戰性。
另一方面，
能夠再次寫到方大同的歌，
自覺很榮幸。
因為他為別人寫的歌並不多，
只有少數歌手邀得到他寫歌。
既然如此，
能夠2次合作，
（第一首是潘辰《起風的季節》）
就表示他與他的團隊：
Charles和Edward他們對我的作品還不太排斥。
和我合作過的歌手，
許多都從不擺架子。
Fiona也是。
她向她的經紀人索取了我的電郵和電話號碼之後，
便第一時間打電話給我，
和我分享了她對歌詞的想法。
縱使在內地偏遠地帶排戲，
一旦有網絡訊息，
她就會查看我的歌詞，
並馬上給予我意見。
過程雖然有點小辛苦，
但絕對是寫得很開心的一個Case
《不要愛我》的原概念說的是：
當你碰到一個這輩子再也不可能碰到的，
再好的人時，
你會很惜福，會很感激緣份。
然而同時你也很小心，
一直當知己，
享受和對方相處的同時，
也其實是在折磨自己，
不能再進一步地靠近對方。
（我很想跟Fiona說我還沒有這種經驗，
因為我是理智派的魔羯座，
要是碰到這麼好的男生，
而我覺得我們有可能發展的話，
我是不會猶豫的。
在一起了之後，
我會竭盡所能為這段珍貴的感情努力，
不讓遲疑能得一點逞。
反之，要是我覺得我們不會長久的話，
我會很快將我對他的愛的感覺消滅掉，
回歸當朋友的自然。）
其實我對這個概念非常熟悉，
因為這是我自己兩個好朋友，
在6年前的經歷。
歌詞的好多句子，
都以他們當時對我傾訴的話語為藍本。
來，詞解。
薛凱琪《不要愛我》
曲：方大同
脫下眼鏡閉上眼睛
挨近的心該不該停
這2句是Fiona要求的，
希望和粵語詞相似，
提醒聽眾這是《除下吊帶前》的中文版。
但在這之後，
詞意將完全不一樣。
呼吸很輕夢仍甦醒
想像現在的感覺是一個美麗的泡泡，
一不小心，
就會被戳破。
你想更靠近它時，
留心地將所有呼吸都摒住了，
可是你甚麼都沒做，
美夢就醒了。
你回到現實，
看到自己，
看到對方，
覺得難堪，
又覺得可惜。
叫醒自己的，是理智，
或這就是我們的命？
莫非已經 是最美風景
當時我對我那兩位不適合交往的朋友說：
“你們能做最要好的朋友，
已經等於攀上了山的頂端，
看盡了世界最美的風景。
再走一步，
就是下坡路，
景色不僅越來越差，
甚至有摔跤的可能。”
我多想要你這我不會否認
但是親吻了 就有 想愛 衝動 萌生
來到prechorus，
應該加入人稱了。
這裡起，理智開始說話了。
本來就蠢蠢欲動的希望，
吻下去，
一切即將決堤，
一切就像一部沒有煞車器的車子，
橫衝直撞，
失去控制。
能沸騰的也會冷 走下去是單向門
再也繞不回我們 彼此坦誠 的單純
從朋友升等成情人，
感情將擁有最大的升溫幅度，
很誘人，
但我們都知道，
一切事物都有始有終；
有熱有冷；
有起有落..
做了情人，
對方看到了你不完美的那一部份，
沒關係，愛情會蒙蔽他的眼睛。
可是熱情退去了以後呢？
不完美就會變得醜陋，
醜陋了有多少人還有勇氣愛下去？
腦海裡一直重播著那些難看的片斷，
對方還能被吸引來重新和你當朋友嗎？
因此我提到”單向門”，
出得去，卻回不來。
你不要愛我
不要我們有如果
我怕如果分手到時連朋友都沒得做
副歌應當保持簡單、口語化，
才有朗朗上口的效果。
“不要我們有如果”
是從我的平時愛說的一句話，
演化來的。
我常說，
“I plan, because I don’t appreciate too many maybes in my life.”
(我喜歡策劃，
因為我不喜歡我的生命有太多”如果“。)
你不要愛我
就輪不到你傷害我
就不會丟失你的線索
我沒法那樣活
只怪我太軟弱
愛上一個人的時候，
我們會把平時築起的防衛拆下，
將自己最赤裸，
最脆弱的自己展現給對方，
希望對方能夠信得過，
希望對方能夠小心翼翼地呵護自己，
而不是不趁機給予傷害。
一旦發覺自己受傷害，
我們不自覺地像貝殼一樣，
將自己的心關起來。
關閉的心，
無人能接近。
理虧的對方，
會漸漸地走遠，
一直到斷絕來往。
但他畢竟是自己最在乎的人，
失去消息，
是多麼疼痛的事。
你此刻是否一樣覺得好恨
最為殘忍是 承認 知己 這個 緣份
張小嫻說：“世界最遙遠的距離不是生與死，
而是我就站在你面前，你却不知道我愛你。”
其實我覺得，
世界最遙遠的距離，
是你我都知道彼此相愛，
緣份卻只允許我們做知己。
愛情友情不平等 沒權利愛卻心疼
你是如此對的人 怕做情人會變成敵人
愛情和友情不平等，
因為愛人有很多朋友沒有的權利。
愛人無論做甚麼事，
藉口往往比較堂皇，
做的小事，
獲得的感動也比較多。
朋友則沒有資格說一些他們想說話，
想做的事。
就算同樣出自關心，
朋友不能送花，
不能親吻自己，
不能想像一起醒來。
情人就可以。
你不要愛我
這沒結果的結果
就誰也不會走 那也算幸福我哭甚麼
如果相愛是結果，
做一輩子的知己就是沒有結果的結果。
既然不能相愛，
兩個相互在乎的朋友能一直相互相伴下去，
已經算是幸福，
已經比世上很多人幸運得多了，
還有甚麼資格難過？
你不要愛我
請別再那樣看著我
假裝不懂你眼神失落
可知我多折磨
有多愛都不…
我多愛你都不說
歌曲在接近尾聲的時候，
對方擺明已知道無論做甚麼，
都沒希望了。
雖無法改變歌者的心意，
卻因為真心，
而無法掩飾自己的失望和失落。
歌者並沒有道歉，
只在心裡暗自吶喊著，
暗自心碎著，
因為，
有多少愛，
有多愛，
都千萬不準說。
薛凱琪《不要愛我》詞解
Author: 小寒03.06.2011
“心動時，我們想關起來的，是理智的忠告，還是現實的阻礙？”
前幾個月的某一天，
我接到一封電郵，
附件是一首Demo.
用itunes打開時，
在Name一欄中寫著Khalil Fong。
細讀電郵的內容，
更覺得開心，
因為演唱者將是薛凱琪。
曾聽房祖名和我聊起剛合作拍完電影《分手說愛你》的Fiona，
便覺得這位獅子座的女生很有個性，
若能為她寫歌詞，
將會很有挑戰性。
另一方面，
能夠再次寫到方大同的歌，
自覺很榮幸。
因為他為別人寫的歌並不多，
只有少數歌手邀得到他寫歌。
既然如此，
能夠2次合作，
（第一首是潘辰《起風的季節》）
就表示他與他的團隊：
Charles和Edward他們對我的作品還不太排斥。
和我合作過的歌手，
許多都從不擺架子。
Fiona也是。
她向她的經紀人索取了我的電郵和電話號碼之後，
便第一時間打電話給我，
和我分享了她對歌詞的想法。
縱使在內地偏遠地帶排戲，
一旦有網絡訊息，
她就會查看我的歌詞，
並馬上給予我意見。
過程雖然有點小辛苦，
但絕對是寫得很開心的一個Case
《不要愛我》的原概念說的是：
當你碰到一個這輩子再也不可能碰到的，
再好的人時，
你會很惜福，會很感激緣份。
然而同時你也很小心，
一直當知己，
享受和對方相處的同時，
也其實是在折磨自己，
不能再進一步地靠近對方。
（我很想跟Fiona說我還沒有這種經驗，
因為我是理智派的魔羯座，
要是碰到這麼好的男生，
而我覺得我們有可能發展的話，
我是不會猶豫的。
在一起了之後，
我會竭盡所能為這段珍貴的感情努力，
不讓遲疑能得一點逞。
反之，要是我覺得我們不會長久的話，
我會很快將我對他的愛的感覺消滅掉，
回歸當朋友的自然。）
其實我對這個概念非常熟悉，
因為這是我自己兩個好朋友，
在6年前的經歷。
歌詞的好多句子，
都以他們當時對我傾訴的話語為藍本。
來，詞解。
薛凱琪《不要愛我》
曲：方大同
脫下眼鏡閉上眼睛
挨近的心該不該停
這2句是Fiona要求的，
希望和粵語詞相似，
提醒聽眾這是《除下吊帶前》的中文版。
但在這之後，
詞意將完全不一樣。
呼吸很輕夢仍甦醒
想像現在的感覺是一個美麗的泡泡，
一不小心，
就會被戳破。
你想更靠近它時，
留心地將所有呼吸都摒住了，
可是你甚麼都沒做，
美夢就醒了。
你回到現實，
看到自己，
看到對方，
覺得難堪，
又覺得可惜。
叫醒自己的，是理智，
或這就是我們的命？
莫非已經 是最美風景
當時我對我那兩位不適合交往的朋友說：
“你們能做最要好的朋友，
已經等於攀上了山的頂端，
看盡了世界最美的風景。
再走一步，
就是下坡路，
景色不僅越來越差，
甚至有摔跤的可能。”
我多想要你這我不會否認
但是親吻了 就有 想愛 衝動 萌生
來到prechorus，
應該加入人稱了。
這裡起，理智開始說話了。
本來就蠢蠢欲動的希望，
吻下去，
一切即將決堤，
一切就像一部沒有煞車器的車子，
橫衝直撞，
失去控制。
能沸騰的也會冷 走下去是單向門
再也繞不回我們 彼此坦誠 的單純
從朋友升等成情人，
感情將擁有最大的升溫幅度，
很誘人，
但我們都知道，
一切事物都有始有終；
有熱有冷；
有起有落..
做了情人，
對方看到了你不完美的那一部份，
沒關係，愛情會蒙蔽他的眼睛。
可是熱情退去了以後呢？
不完美就會變得醜陋，
醜陋了有多少人還有勇氣愛下去？
腦海裡一直重播著那些難看的片斷，
對方還能被吸引來重新和你當朋友嗎？
因此我提到”單向門”，
出得去，卻回不來。
你不要愛我
不要我們有如果
我怕如果分手到時連朋友都沒得做
副歌應當保持簡單、口語化，
才有朗朗上口的效果。
“不要我們有如果”
是從我的平時愛說的一句話，
演化來的。
我常說，
“I plan, because I don’t appreciate too many maybes in my life.”
(我喜歡策劃，
因為我不喜歡我的生命有太多”如果“。)
你不要愛我
就輪不到你傷害我
就不會丟失你的線索
我沒法那樣活
只怪我太軟弱
愛上一個人的時候，
我們會把平時築起的防衛拆下，
將自己最赤裸，
最脆弱的自己展現給對方，
希望對方能夠信得過，
希望對方能夠小心翼翼地呵護自己，
而不是不趁機給予傷害。
一旦發覺自己受傷害，
我們不自覺地像貝殼一樣，
將自己的心關起來。
關閉的心，
無人能接近。
理虧的對方，
會漸漸地走遠，
一直到斷絕來往。
但他畢竟是自己最在乎的人，
失去消息，
是多麼疼痛的事。
你此刻是否一樣覺得好恨
最為殘忍是 承認 知己 這個 緣份
張小嫻說：“世界最遙遠的距離不是生與死，
而是我就站在你面前，你却不知道我愛你。”
其實我覺得，
世界最遙遠的距離，
是你我都知道彼此相愛，
緣份卻只允許我們做知己。
愛情友情不平等 沒權利愛卻心疼
你是如此對的人 怕做情人會變成敵人
愛情和友情不平等，
因為愛人有很多朋友沒有的權利。
愛人無論做甚麼事，
藉口往往比較堂皇，
做的小事，
獲得的感動也比較多。
朋友則沒有資格說一些他們想說話，
想做的事。
就算同樣出自關心，
朋友不能送花，
不能親吻自己，
不能想像一起醒來。
情人就可以。
你不要愛我
這沒結果的結果
就誰也不會走 那也算幸福我哭甚麼
如果相愛是結果，
做一輩子的知己就是沒有結果的結果。
既然不能相愛，
兩個相互在乎的朋友能一直相互相伴下去，
已經算是幸福，
已經比世上很多人幸運得多了，
還有甚麼資格難過？
你不要愛我
請別再那樣看著我
假裝不懂你眼神失落
可知我多折磨
有多愛都不…
我多愛你都不說
歌曲在接近尾聲的時候，
對方擺明已知道無論做甚麼，
都沒希望了。
雖無法改變歌者的心意，
卻因為真心，
而無法掩飾自己的失望和失落。
歌者並沒有道歉，
只在心裡暗自吶喊著，
暗自心碎著，
因為，
有多少愛，
有多愛，
都千萬不準說。
拋物線
Dunno why, decided to google "小寒” this morning and saw a song that I thot wasn't nice when i heard it earlier before going out.. And saw that the song was actually written by 小寒.. 而不知觉中，realised the meaning of her lyrics..
So went all out and read thru her blog.. and found this song.. a song that i like very much.. but just do not understand the lyrics.. and now i finally sorta know.. so copying it over her for my personal reading cos i dun wana flip thru so many entries again when i wana read it..
“拋物線”詞解
Author: 小寒09.09.2009
“過了最高點, 總是墜落。唯有祈禱不要摔得太痛。”
先來看一下把蔡妹拍得美美的MV
“拋物線”
我最喜歡黃昏和煙火那一慕，
你們呢?
導演這次將她裝進了一個圓筒形的道具，
據說應該是個試管。
但不知是否我想太多
我怎麼總覺得它看起來像一個時光機，
好像她是從未來飛回來的人，
看透了人世煙火，
站在人群中向現在的人們訴說愛情的種種經歷。
先說這首詞的來源：
有別於我今年發表過的一些作品，
拋物線的詞花了挺長一段時間（一年！）才寫好的。
蔡妹在搬到台灣，許久沒連絡時，
突然給我寄來一首demo。
和”達爾文”一樣，
這首歌也是她某一天醒來決定為她自己喜歡的歌手所寫的。
這回，是那英。
我從沒為那英寫過歌詞，
對她的口氣並不熟悉
（這是藉口啦，是因為她沒催我，我就take my time哈哈）。
於是，我很不要命地，
把歌收了起來，沒寫。
突然有一天，我感到很內疚，
便寫了這首”拋物線”。
當作教材來說一說：
歌詞的主歌與副歌截然不同。
詞人往往喜歡在主歌加入場景，
在副歌使用對話的方式來將主題說出。
我一般也是。
但這首歌是反過來的。
因為曲子的結構本來就是這樣。
主歌的旋律一直重複著，好像一個人在自言自語。
於是我寫了：
“我確實說 我這樣說 我不在乎結果
我對你說 我有把握 成功例子好多
人們虛假又造作 總愛得不溫不火
我們用真心就不會有差錯
我沒想過我會難過 你竟然離開我“
﹣來描述歌手從自信到對對方驚訝的心情轉折。
後面的一段的主歌，基於情緒較為激動，
我利用了後悔和遺憾的口氣來為這段感情做結尾。
“我好想說 我只想說 我不要這後果
可是你說 相對來說 走開是種解脫
當初親密的動作 變成當下的閃躲
感情的過程出了什麼差錯
我沒想過我會難過 你終於離開我“
﹣敘述歌手認可了愛情挽不回的結論。
副歌和歌名靈感來源則是：
來自一部Adam Sandler 和 Drew Barrymore主演的 “Wedding Singer”當中的一段對白。
Robbie (Adam Sandler飾）: How did you know that Glenn was the Right One?
Julia （Drew Barrymore飾）: The right one, ah… I always just Envisioned the Right One being someone I could see myself growing old with.
啊，”Envision”是許多自信的男女對自己未來的視域。
我們常常以為自己能會推測自己的幸福和成功。
可是，真的會實現嗎？
我們國中時上體育課時學習丟擲標槍(Javelin)一樣，
我們都知道，可以很用力很用力地將它往前仍，
但它是否可以飛得更遠，或甚至是否得到達我們預估的結果，
當中還要得到時間、風向、角度其他種種阻力的許可。
正如用愛情做出發，最後是否能安全降落在幸福裡，誰知道。
“愛沿著 拋物線 離幸福 總降落得差一點“
奇怪的是，我們好多人的心都摔不死，只能躺在那裡呻吟著，活生生地感受著心的巨痛。
“流著血心跳卻不曾被心痛消滅 真真切切“
（這句是改寫過的，修成沒那麼刺骨、絕望。
因為這張專輯的走向應是比以往的輕盈、正面。）
我們小時候，父母和老師教會我們，
天時地力人和還有努力，才是確保往後到達目標的要素。
於是我們努力地做好自己，同時尋找著Mr Right，
年輕時的我們的卻忍不住憑第一眼感覺去認定他就是對的人。
“青春的 拋物線 把未來 始於相遇的地點“
只能說，這首詞是“達爾文“的“長大篇“
我之前說過：“懂得永恆得要我們 進化成更好的人“
但我們都知道，理論歸理論，現實才是真理。
愛到沸沸揚揚飛到天上之後，我們就會看到：
月兒就是月兒，自己不會發亮。
它的光芒乃來自太陽每天都在改變的照射。
愛情，真的被我們這些文字工作者偉大化了。
“至高後才了解 世上月圓月缺只是錯覺“
So went all out and read thru her blog.. and found this song.. a song that i like very much.. but just do not understand the lyrics.. and now i finally sorta know.. so copying it over her for my personal reading cos i dun wana flip thru so many entries again when i wana read it..
“拋物線”詞解
Author: 小寒09.09.2009
“過了最高點, 總是墜落。唯有祈禱不要摔得太痛。”
先來看一下把蔡妹拍得美美的MV
“拋物線”
我最喜歡黃昏和煙火那一慕，
你們呢?
導演這次將她裝進了一個圓筒形的道具，
據說應該是個試管。
但不知是否我想太多
我怎麼總覺得它看起來像一個時光機，
好像她是從未來飛回來的人，
看透了人世煙火，
站在人群中向現在的人們訴說愛情的種種經歷。
先說這首詞的來源：
有別於我今年發表過的一些作品，
拋物線的詞花了挺長一段時間（一年！）才寫好的。
蔡妹在搬到台灣，許久沒連絡時，
突然給我寄來一首demo。
和”達爾文”一樣，
這首歌也是她某一天醒來決定為她自己喜歡的歌手所寫的。
這回，是那英。
我從沒為那英寫過歌詞，
對她的口氣並不熟悉
（這是藉口啦，是因為她沒催我，我就take my time哈哈）。
於是，我很不要命地，
把歌收了起來，沒寫。
突然有一天，我感到很內疚，
便寫了這首”拋物線”。
當作教材來說一說：
歌詞的主歌與副歌截然不同。
詞人往往喜歡在主歌加入場景，
在副歌使用對話的方式來將主題說出。
我一般也是。
但這首歌是反過來的。
因為曲子的結構本來就是這樣。
主歌的旋律一直重複著，好像一個人在自言自語。
於是我寫了：
“我確實說 我這樣說 我不在乎結果
我對你說 我有把握 成功例子好多
人們虛假又造作 總愛得不溫不火
我們用真心就不會有差錯
我沒想過我會難過 你竟然離開我“
﹣來描述歌手從自信到對對方驚訝的心情轉折。
後面的一段的主歌，基於情緒較為激動，
我利用了後悔和遺憾的口氣來為這段感情做結尾。
“我好想說 我只想說 我不要這後果
可是你說 相對來說 走開是種解脫
當初親密的動作 變成當下的閃躲
感情的過程出了什麼差錯
我沒想過我會難過 你終於離開我“
﹣敘述歌手認可了愛情挽不回的結論。
副歌和歌名靈感來源則是：
來自一部Adam Sandler 和 Drew Barrymore主演的 “Wedding Singer”當中的一段對白。
Robbie (Adam Sandler飾）: How did you know that Glenn was the Right One?
Julia （Drew Barrymore飾）: The right one, ah… I always just Envisioned the Right One being someone I could see myself growing old with.
啊，”Envision”是許多自信的男女對自己未來的視域。
我們常常以為自己能會推測自己的幸福和成功。
可是，真的會實現嗎？
我們國中時上體育課時學習丟擲標槍(Javelin)一樣，
我們都知道，可以很用力很用力地將它往前仍，
但它是否可以飛得更遠，或甚至是否得到達我們預估的結果，
當中還要得到時間、風向、角度其他種種阻力的許可。
正如用愛情做出發，最後是否能安全降落在幸福裡，誰知道。
“愛沿著 拋物線 離幸福 總降落得差一點“
奇怪的是，我們好多人的心都摔不死，只能躺在那裡呻吟著，活生生地感受著心的巨痛。
“流著血心跳卻不曾被心痛消滅 真真切切“
（這句是改寫過的，修成沒那麼刺骨、絕望。
因為這張專輯的走向應是比以往的輕盈、正面。）
我們小時候，父母和老師教會我們，
天時地力人和還有努力，才是確保往後到達目標的要素。
於是我們努力地做好自己，同時尋找著Mr Right，
年輕時的我們的卻忍不住憑第一眼感覺去認定他就是對的人。
“青春的 拋物線 把未來 始於相遇的地點“
只能說，這首詞是“達爾文“的“長大篇“
我之前說過：“懂得永恆得要我們 進化成更好的人“
但我們都知道，理論歸理論，現實才是真理。
愛到沸沸揚揚飛到天上之後，我們就會看到：
月兒就是月兒，自己不會發亮。
它的光芒乃來自太陽每天都在改變的照射。
愛情，真的被我們這些文字工作者偉大化了。
“至高後才了解 世上月圓月缺只是錯覺“
Thursday, June 09, 2011
突然间，好想听到这首歌
我怕来不及我要抱着你
直到感觉你的皱纹有了岁月的痕迹
直到肯定你是真的直到失去力气
为了你我愿意
动也不能动也要看着你
直到感觉你的发线有了白雪的痕迹
直到视线变得模糊直到不能呼吸
让我们形影不离
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
也许全世界我也可以忘记
就是不愿意失去你的消息
你掌心的痣我总记得在那里
我怕来不及我要抱着你
直到感觉你的发线有了白雪的痕迹
直到视线变得模糊直到不能呼吸
让我们形影不离
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
也许全世界我也可以忘记
就是不愿意失去你的消息
你掌心的痣我总记得在那里
我们好不容易我们身不由已
我怕时间太快不够将你看仔细
我怕时间太慢日夜担心失去你
恨不得一夜之间白头永不分离
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
也许全世界我也可以忘记
就是不愿意失去你的消息
你掌心的痣我总记得在那里
直到感觉你的皱纹有了岁月的痕迹
直到肯定你是真的直到失去力气
为了你我愿意
动也不能动也要看着你
直到感觉你的发线有了白雪的痕迹
直到视线变得模糊直到不能呼吸
让我们形影不离
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
也许全世界我也可以忘记
就是不愿意失去你的消息
你掌心的痣我总记得在那里
我怕来不及我要抱着你
直到感觉你的发线有了白雪的痕迹
直到视线变得模糊直到不能呼吸
让我们形影不离
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
也许全世界我也可以忘记
就是不愿意失去你的消息
你掌心的痣我总记得在那里
我们好不容易我们身不由已
我怕时间太快不够将你看仔细
我怕时间太慢日夜担心失去你
恨不得一夜之间白头永不分离
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
也许全世界我也可以忘记
就是不愿意失去你的消息
你掌心的痣我总记得在那里
Tuesday, June 07, 2011
Happie Birthday Mr Sim
May ur days be always filled with happiness and may God always look after you.
May all ur wishes come true! =)
I'm really really Happie that someone wrest my thots away from you.. No matter how unhealthy this situation is, I'm sp glad it has happen cos I finally realize that you might be only an image that I've been holding so tight in my heart..
But no matter what.. I'm grateful to have known you.. The thots of you fill me with happiness that I can't describe..
I thanks God daily for letting our path cross, for sending you, this angel into my life..
From the bottom if my heart, thank you for being who you are, thank you for knowing me and I love you.. Truly, deeply.
May all ur wishes come true! =)
I'm really really Happie that someone wrest my thots away from you.. No matter how unhealthy this situation is, I'm sp glad it has happen cos I finally realize that you might be only an image that I've been holding so tight in my heart..
But no matter what.. I'm grateful to have known you.. The thots of you fill me with happiness that I can't describe..
I thanks God daily for letting our path cross, for sending you, this angel into my life..
From the bottom if my heart, thank you for being who you are, thank you for knowing me and I love you.. Truly, deeply.
Monday, June 06, 2011
Saturday, June 04, 2011
Okay.. I must stop thinking abt him..
Couldn't slp for the past 2 hrs already. Forget it ger. This guy is already attached and is not even interested in mting up with you again..
Why did you suddenly got infatuated with him?
I can't even ans my own Qn of m I willing to give up Tv..
Yet, I cannot stop thinking abt the appt just now?
Did god send him to test how impt Tv is to me?
Behaved really unprofessionally just now.. Cos it's so comfortable to speak with him. This is the first time I feel so natural and comfortable w a guy. I think it's his character that can put one at ease only.
Stop it ger.. Stop behaving like a schoolgirl..
Omg.. Behaved so unprofessionally just now.. I'm so ashamed of myself.
Couldn't slp for the past 2 hrs already. Forget it ger. This guy is already attached and is not even interested in mting up with you again..
Why did you suddenly got infatuated with him?
I can't even ans my own Qn of m I willing to give up Tv..
Yet, I cannot stop thinking abt the appt just now?
Did god send him to test how impt Tv is to me?
Behaved really unprofessionally just now.. Cos it's so comfortable to speak with him. This is the first time I feel so natural and comfortable w a guy. I think it's his character that can put one at ease only.
Stop it ger.. Stop behaving like a schoolgirl..
Omg.. Behaved so unprofessionally just now.. I'm so ashamed of myself.
Friday, June 03, 2011
不开心，但觉得自己很幸福.
Whatever I feed will grow.. Do I wana con't feeding it?
Will I deviate? Am i deviating? Am I hanging on for the sake of hanging on? Do I really like him? Am I just being persistent?
我是不是在跟自己谈恋爱？
Can I just forget abt him? Will I regret it? 我是不是太执著了呢？
我到底是喜欢他，还是只喜欢有人喜欢的感觉？
If so, why am I so reluctant to give him up?
I'll just leave everything to God to plan for me..
Whatever I feed will grow.. Do I wana con't feeding it?
Will I deviate? Am i deviating? Am I hanging on for the sake of hanging on? Do I really like him? Am I just being persistent?
我是不是在跟自己谈恋爱？
Can I just forget abt him? Will I regret it? 我是不是太执著了呢？
我到底是喜欢他，还是只喜欢有人喜欢的感觉？
If so, why am I so reluctant to give him up?
I'll just leave everything to God to plan for me..
Thursday, June 02, 2011
Wednesday, June 01, 2011
Mid Year Review!
Very grateful that I'm born rite in the middle of the year.. thus a mid year review implies the start of another age for me again..
Come 2 more weeks, i'll be turning 29.. the last birthday where i can use only 2 big candles on the cake le.. this time round, i'm gonna have a cake with 29 candles on it! So that i'll can have 29 wishes.. one for each year until i hit 58.. hahahaa..
i still rememember when i was about to turn 18.. i was at OLP chatting with Kenny and Sun Maoting.. was asking Sun Maoting, how he feels about turning 20.. and i guess his reply was, not much feelings?
I remembered that i dreaded turning 18 then.. i felt that i was so old.. and really, in a blink of the eye.. i'm turning 29 already..
Remembered that time, went with my SACYS to Far East and purchased that Ms Sixties jeans.. and remembered i declared that each year, i'll go back to that shop and purchase a size smaller than the previosu year jean.. and unfortunately, that didn't materialize at all.
Wasted 10 years of my life i guess.. looking back, i wish i had done alot of things differently.. for eg, to not be that close up during uni so that i had more friends then, to learn to take care of my looks and become more presentable then. To enter accounting so that i can become an auditor instead. To have an idea where i wana go after graduation. To know how to manage finances much earlier in my life so that i'm rich enoff to purchase the dream condo that my mum yearn greatly.
Looking forward, i definately doesn't want to waste my next 10 years.. i really wana see myself, patting myself on my back when i turn 39 that i've led a good life. a life that i can look back and be proud of myself, a life filled with integrity and happiness.
So what's my plan then?
realised that sometimes, i'm too forward looking, i've got the goal in place, w/o any tactical strategy, which often results me getting lost after sometimes. i tend to be greedy and aspire to achieve many things at one time.. so from onwards, i'm gonna break down the goals in biteable size so that i can achieve them step by step. Just like the quote i see at Tanjong Pagar MRT station- "the trick to success is to never, ever give up". So lemme set what i wana achieve, and the actions i'll be taking to achieve them with the deadline in place to keep me in check.
My goal for this year is very simple..
1) To become prettier!
2) Family & Friends happiness
3) Systemize up my business
4) Defining who I am.. Spiritually, financially, mentally and personally
My Physical self- To become prettier!
1) I wana to sleep earlier daily. lights out by 12mn at least 4 times per week. No phone on the bed.
To wake up by 8.30am daily
2) Get a good eye cream after i finish this bioessence one.. it's not working for my eyes currently.. the dark circles, milli seeds and lines are showing already. I want to start this latest by september, so that when i look at myself at next year birthday, my eyes will not look that tired!
3) Going for Gym and a class at least one / week. Starting from the week of my birthday, to at least go for one gym session and one yoga class every week. otw i will be wasting my money.
4) complete my dose of TRA. It's gonna expire by july and august.. omg.. it's a 3 mths session? why are there still so many pills? Can I con't to take it on a daily basis with the correct dosage? i'm aiming for 58kg by my birthday.. i wana hit that very much. to give myself the best birthday pressie!
5) okay.. gonna pick back my beauty regimn again..
Hair:
Quaterly treatment at pharse - next session is gonna be in august. - Apr, Aug, Dec- budget of $200/ session.
Meanwhile i'm gonna stick with weekly conditioning, and using the beauty credit serum.
Face:
monthly Facial at Lee Wah- budget $80/session
Peppermint pore mask followed by tissue mask every other night.
Sleeping mask every 3 nites.
Eyelashes:
Eyelashes enhancing serum twice per day
Teeth:
Crest at least once per month
To remove my wisdom tooth by end of this month. that shall be my last wisdom tooth and to stop the misalign of my teeth. need to call and fix an appt by this coming week ya?
Nails:
Apply my fungus cream every day
Skin:
my weekly scrub on sunday followed by lotion
moisturizer for my feet every nite!
Inner self/health:
Collagen every sunday nite!
glocosamine every nite
To do my full body checkup in march 2012
1) Family & Friends
Mum:
1) Her Legs- she say that she wana go for the knee replacement operation. I need to bring her to the polyclinic so that she can be referred to the hospital for the checkup to see if she's suitable for this ops.
I'll bring her to the polyclinic by 15 Jun.
I'll call NTUC to chk if she's covered for this ops by 15 Jun
2) Time with her
I'll bring her out every alternate friday. anyplace she wana go. eating, massaging, shopping etc.. groupon is a good place for me to get cheap deals to bring her around
3) Moving house
guess we realy gotta move. What mum said is rite.. it's good for everyone to have a room of our own. If mum shares the new place with brother, where can sis lives when brother gets married? however, at that point of time, sis can buy over the place should brother gets married. i gotta find a place that's affordable and can accomodate all of us..
To look for a few property agents to help me look out for flats and condos at hougang, sengkang areas.
I need to also pay attention to HDB new housing launches too..
4) siblings
brother- finish financial planning for him by end of july.
sis- bring her to do hair with me, return the $80 that i owe her for her hair and talk to her.
5)Friends..
I think i'm really fortunate that there are so many pple who take me as their close friends.
I wana pick up my letter writing project again.. wau.. been procrastinating it for so so so so many years already.. omg.. i will dedicate a day per month after my CFP for all these admin things.
6)My little boy.. it's so sad that I can't even remember his name.. but i'm glad! finally finally fulfiled my dream of paying it forward to help someone change his life. but i will keep this close to my heart, and to always remember that shi bi shou gen you fu..
Career
streamline, streamline, streamline.. i kept talking about streamlining it.. but i've got no idea on how i can do so?
the vast number of pple scares me..
will i be able to complete my contact list if i spend 3 full days doing so?
1) Getting my CFP!!
Assuming that i'll pass my papers this july.. I'll finally fulfil this dream of getting my CFP before 30 years old!
So proud of myself..
2)Creating my own FNA report!
I've got so many ideas in my head, but i do not know how to put them in paper format so that it's standardise. I'll start this after the CFP paper as well.
3) Systemize my biz model!
Apparently, it's very obvious that there's no way i can work the same way as per when i just enter this industry. It's really tuff to have 8 appts daily... cos most of my appts don't fly already.
Thus, i'm resetting it already.. lemme work towards having 10 appts weekly.. that's all.. and if possible to squeeze them from monday-thursday.. so that fri-sun is for family and friends. To achieve 10k API monthly instead..
i) to go for my wisdom tooth operation on 20th
ii) taking a break from 20-24 this month
iii) Merge my contact list together so that it can sync with my iphone
iv) Create another contact list on excel spreadsheet so that i have a clear view of the plans that my client has. transfer these details from the production list
create proper follow up list for mine and andrew's client. -- I need to have an idea how many clients i actually have!
v) Start my motor insurance project
vi) Finish my testimonial handbooks - as a mkting material, quality referrals getting tools and sourcing genuine feedback from clients.
v) return back to office on 27 and to continue to contact all these groups of pple.
vi) My prospect and pending list.. I should be glad that i've got this good problem.. too any pple to call.. but for some reason, i dunno why, i just can't get started on calling them! after closing the cases on hand, i'm gonna to just focus on this group of pending list, client list and referral list.
My aim is to get 65% banding, have 4k monthly income.. that's all.. nothing too faciful cos i prefer to focus on living my life, and enjoying my job!
Defining who I am and what i wana do
i want to see a happie, cheerful, a person with integrity, honesty and fairness in her doing. A person who's focused and serious with her work, and a person who's playful and naughty with her friends. a person who's brutally honest with herself and others, and have to courage to face and overcome what scares her.
A person who's the best daughter, siblings, friends, FC, colleagues accordingly to the pple she loves. A person who makes other pple envy her mum, siblings, friends, clients and colleagues for having her in their life. A person who will makes pple cry and luff during her funeral. A person who's forward looking and has her life planned out already. A person who's financially independent by 30.
Spiritually
without doubts, and always will be. I know God loves me, and chose me to love. I strongly believe that my current position as a non chuch goer, a not 100% believer in every practices is also determine by him. I also believe that He's the one who will determine when I will change this mentality. As of now.. All i just want is to finish the one year bible plan. to start attending church.. I want to attend FCBC at least once by end of this month.. I gotta find the time! all my weekends are already full! OMG.. if all else fails, gonna go back to wesley.. i actually like the serenity there thou it's really quite oldish there.. whatever will happens, i know that my god has planned it all out for me.. and i love him for loving me so much...
Mentally
Completing my CFP! I'm so excited! and gonna make the name chop with my CFP title! who cares abt MDRT? Haa.. even if, in the event that i actually garnered 110k comm for this year, i'm not gonna apply for it anymore.
i wana continue to read more.. Not only in terms of finance, but in terms of self improvement, to learn how to become a better person. just like the Wu Dan Ru book that i just finished.. i wana become a person with more depth.
Financially
Short Term
I'm gonna stay broke for quite a while.. lent out so much $ to so many pple this year.. read this saying before- expect no return when you lend ur money out.. well, anniway, the money is worth paying to see how this person is like.. so lemme see what will comes out from this.
but with this action.. my ST savings and EF is really really low.. gotta have only one focus for my finance this year-- to build up a cash savings of $25k- $10k for ST and current usage, $15k as my emergency fund. I'm $20k away from this goal.. help!
anniway, by the end of this year.. to achieve this even if it means eating bread.. gotta go back to my thrifty days!
N i gotta set aside $4k to bring my mum for the autumn trip.. Hope i'll get back the borrowed money by then..
Oh yah.. sticking with giving up the cubicle by sept.. actually, i'm clsoe to being able to do it already.. lemme finish the client list and motor insurance project first.. den i'll definately look into it..
Mid Term
There's nothing much that i wana purchase in the next 2 years.. gonna stick with the original plan of starting a ifast of $300 monthly of my 30th birthday. this shall fund for my flat when i turns 35.
by 35, i guess i should be in the process of selling of spottiswoode 18.. so there should be a decent lump sum to pay for the flat. anniway, for this flat, if it's gonna cost me about $400,000, the downpayment with reno and furnishing should set me back by $100k.. so if i'm able to get back at least $50k from spottiswoode 18, i'll just need to have savings in cash for about $50k.. wich makes it about MT savings of $800 monthly.. still owe myself $500 monthly from 30 yrs old onwards.
Long term:
it's gonna stay status quo currently..
with only about 1/3 by 30 years old..
if i'm gonna focus on the house, i'll be stuck at this 1/3 for quite a long time.. it's not health.. so no matter what ger, by 30, do a revision and aim for more..
Matters of the heart..
Amazingly.. amazing, amazingly.. normally, any post i blog are filled with Mr Sim's memories.. but i just realised, i haven even thot about him or visualise a future with him anymore.. even for the past 2 days, any thots about him came after this guy that i only met for 3 times. I am so amazed! for the past 4 years, i always chose to stick with waiting for mr sim even if someone who fits who i think i'm looking for comes along.. cos mr sim has always been so precious to me.
but this guy, even thou i dunno him well at all, and have not display any traits that i'm attracted to normally, seems to captivate me. but of cos.. he's not interested in me and he has someone whom he has already discussed which type of housing they will be purchasing.. i guess i should be glad.. God sent someone to test how impt mr Sim is to me.. and has proven to me that Mr Sim is not as close to my heart as i think he is.. it's just that so far, no one can capture my heart like mr sim.. however, this guy managed to catch my attention and makes me yearn to know him better within 3 mtings.. hmm.. issit my own desperation at work?
nonetheless, i now know that mr sim is just a convenient person for me to justify that there's actually no guys who's attracted to me.. hahaa.. on hindsight, looking at this situation, i wish that i didn't express my feelings to him then.. at least, there wouldn't be this change in the friendship.. i wonder, will this feeling change again? i hate being a gemini.. so inconsistent with my thots!
Come 2 more weeks, i'll be turning 29.. the last birthday where i can use only 2 big candles on the cake le.. this time round, i'm gonna have a cake with 29 candles on it! So that i'll can have 29 wishes.. one for each year until i hit 58.. hahahaa..
i still rememember when i was about to turn 18.. i was at OLP chatting with Kenny and Sun Maoting.. was asking Sun Maoting, how he feels about turning 20.. and i guess his reply was, not much feelings?
I remembered that i dreaded turning 18 then.. i felt that i was so old.. and really, in a blink of the eye.. i'm turning 29 already..
Remembered that time, went with my SACYS to Far East and purchased that Ms Sixties jeans.. and remembered i declared that each year, i'll go back to that shop and purchase a size smaller than the previosu year jean.. and unfortunately, that didn't materialize at all.
Wasted 10 years of my life i guess.. looking back, i wish i had done alot of things differently.. for eg, to not be that close up during uni so that i had more friends then, to learn to take care of my looks and become more presentable then. To enter accounting so that i can become an auditor instead. To have an idea where i wana go after graduation. To know how to manage finances much earlier in my life so that i'm rich enoff to purchase the dream condo that my mum yearn greatly.
Looking forward, i definately doesn't want to waste my next 10 years.. i really wana see myself, patting myself on my back when i turn 39 that i've led a good life. a life that i can look back and be proud of myself, a life filled with integrity and happiness.
So what's my plan then?
realised that sometimes, i'm too forward looking, i've got the goal in place, w/o any tactical strategy, which often results me getting lost after sometimes. i tend to be greedy and aspire to achieve many things at one time.. so from onwards, i'm gonna break down the goals in biteable size so that i can achieve them step by step. Just like the quote i see at Tanjong Pagar MRT station- "the trick to success is to never, ever give up". So lemme set what i wana achieve, and the actions i'll be taking to achieve them with the deadline in place to keep me in check.
My goal for this year is very simple..
1) To become prettier!
2) Family & Friends happiness
3) Systemize up my business
4) Defining who I am.. Spiritually, financially, mentally and personally
My Physical self- To become prettier!
1) I wana to sleep earlier daily. lights out by 12mn at least 4 times per week. No phone on the bed.
To wake up by 8.30am daily
2) Get a good eye cream after i finish this bioessence one.. it's not working for my eyes currently.. the dark circles, milli seeds and lines are showing already. I want to start this latest by september, so that when i look at myself at next year birthday, my eyes will not look that tired!
3) Going for Gym and a class at least one / week. Starting from the week of my birthday, to at least go for one gym session and one yoga class every week. otw i will be wasting my money.
4) complete my dose of TRA. It's gonna expire by july and august.. omg.. it's a 3 mths session? why are there still so many pills? Can I con't to take it on a daily basis with the correct dosage? i'm aiming for 58kg by my birthday.. i wana hit that very much. to give myself the best birthday pressie!
5) okay.. gonna pick back my beauty regimn again..
Hair:
Quaterly treatment at pharse - next session is gonna be in august. - Apr, Aug, Dec- budget of $200/ session.
Meanwhile i'm gonna stick with weekly conditioning, and using the beauty credit serum.
Face:
monthly Facial at Lee Wah- budget $80/session
Peppermint pore mask followed by tissue mask every other night.
Sleeping mask every 3 nites.
Eyelashes:
Eyelashes enhancing serum twice per day
Teeth:
Crest at least once per month
To remove my wisdom tooth by end of this month. that shall be my last wisdom tooth and to stop the misalign of my teeth. need to call and fix an appt by this coming week ya?
Nails:
Apply my fungus cream every day
Skin:
my weekly scrub on sunday followed by lotion
moisturizer for my feet every nite!
Inner self/health:
Collagen every sunday nite!
glocosamine every nite
To do my full body checkup in march 2012
1) Family & Friends
Mum:
1) Her Legs- she say that she wana go for the knee replacement operation. I need to bring her to the polyclinic so that she can be referred to the hospital for the checkup to see if she's suitable for this ops.
I'll bring her to the polyclinic by 15 Jun.
I'll call NTUC to chk if she's covered for this ops by 15 Jun
2) Time with her
I'll bring her out every alternate friday. anyplace she wana go. eating, massaging, shopping etc.. groupon is a good place for me to get cheap deals to bring her around
3) Moving house
guess we realy gotta move. What mum said is rite.. it's good for everyone to have a room of our own. If mum shares the new place with brother, where can sis lives when brother gets married? however, at that point of time, sis can buy over the place should brother gets married. i gotta find a place that's affordable and can accomodate all of us..
To look for a few property agents to help me look out for flats and condos at hougang, sengkang areas.
I need to also pay attention to HDB new housing launches too..
4) siblings
brother- finish financial planning for him by end of july.
sis- bring her to do hair with me, return the $80 that i owe her for her hair and talk to her.
5)Friends..
I think i'm really fortunate that there are so many pple who take me as their close friends.
I wana pick up my letter writing project again.. wau.. been procrastinating it for so so so so many years already.. omg.. i will dedicate a day per month after my CFP for all these admin things.
6)My little boy.. it's so sad that I can't even remember his name.. but i'm glad! finally finally fulfiled my dream of paying it forward to help someone change his life. but i will keep this close to my heart, and to always remember that shi bi shou gen you fu..
Career
streamline, streamline, streamline.. i kept talking about streamlining it.. but i've got no idea on how i can do so?
the vast number of pple scares me..
will i be able to complete my contact list if i spend 3 full days doing so?
1) Getting my CFP!!
Assuming that i'll pass my papers this july.. I'll finally fulfil this dream of getting my CFP before 30 years old!
So proud of myself..
2)Creating my own FNA report!
I've got so many ideas in my head, but i do not know how to put them in paper format so that it's standardise. I'll start this after the CFP paper as well.
3) Systemize my biz model!
Apparently, it's very obvious that there's no way i can work the same way as per when i just enter this industry. It's really tuff to have 8 appts daily... cos most of my appts don't fly already.
Thus, i'm resetting it already.. lemme work towards having 10 appts weekly.. that's all.. and if possible to squeeze them from monday-thursday.. so that fri-sun is for family and friends. To achieve 10k API monthly instead..
i) to go for my wisdom tooth operation on 20th
ii) taking a break from 20-24 this month
iii) Merge my contact list together so that it can sync with my iphone
iv) Create another contact list on excel spreadsheet so that i have a clear view of the plans that my client has. transfer these details from the production list
create proper follow up list for mine and andrew's client. -- I need to have an idea how many clients i actually have!
v) Start my motor insurance project
vi) Finish my testimonial handbooks - as a mkting material, quality referrals getting tools and sourcing genuine feedback from clients.
v) return back to office on 27 and to continue to contact all these groups of pple.
vi) My prospect and pending list.. I should be glad that i've got this good problem.. too any pple to call.. but for some reason, i dunno why, i just can't get started on calling them! after closing the cases on hand, i'm gonna to just focus on this group of pending list, client list and referral list.
My aim is to get 65% banding, have 4k monthly income.. that's all.. nothing too faciful cos i prefer to focus on living my life, and enjoying my job!
Defining who I am and what i wana do
i want to see a happie, cheerful, a person with integrity, honesty and fairness in her doing. A person who's focused and serious with her work, and a person who's playful and naughty with her friends. a person who's brutally honest with herself and others, and have to courage to face and overcome what scares her.
A person who's the best daughter, siblings, friends, FC, colleagues accordingly to the pple she loves. A person who makes other pple envy her mum, siblings, friends, clients and colleagues for having her in their life. A person who will makes pple cry and luff during her funeral. A person who's forward looking and has her life planned out already. A person who's financially independent by 30.
Spiritually
without doubts, and always will be. I know God loves me, and chose me to love. I strongly believe that my current position as a non chuch goer, a not 100% believer in every practices is also determine by him. I also believe that He's the one who will determine when I will change this mentality. As of now.. All i just want is to finish the one year bible plan. to start attending church.. I want to attend FCBC at least once by end of this month.. I gotta find the time! all my weekends are already full! OMG.. if all else fails, gonna go back to wesley.. i actually like the serenity there thou it's really quite oldish there.. whatever will happens, i know that my god has planned it all out for me.. and i love him for loving me so much...
Mentally
Completing my CFP! I'm so excited! and gonna make the name chop with my CFP title! who cares abt MDRT? Haa.. even if, in the event that i actually garnered 110k comm for this year, i'm not gonna apply for it anymore.
i wana continue to read more.. Not only in terms of finance, but in terms of self improvement, to learn how to become a better person. just like the Wu Dan Ru book that i just finished.. i wana become a person with more depth.
Financially
Short Term
I'm gonna stay broke for quite a while.. lent out so much $ to so many pple this year.. read this saying before- expect no return when you lend ur money out.. well, anniway, the money is worth paying to see how this person is like.. so lemme see what will comes out from this.
but with this action.. my ST savings and EF is really really low.. gotta have only one focus for my finance this year-- to build up a cash savings of $25k- $10k for ST and current usage, $15k as my emergency fund. I'm $20k away from this goal.. help!
anniway, by the end of this year.. to achieve this even if it means eating bread.. gotta go back to my thrifty days!
N i gotta set aside $4k to bring my mum for the autumn trip.. Hope i'll get back the borrowed money by then..
Oh yah.. sticking with giving up the cubicle by sept.. actually, i'm clsoe to being able to do it already.. lemme finish the client list and motor insurance project first.. den i'll definately look into it..
Mid Term
There's nothing much that i wana purchase in the next 2 years.. gonna stick with the original plan of starting a ifast of $300 monthly of my 30th birthday. this shall fund for my flat when i turns 35.
by 35, i guess i should be in the process of selling of spottiswoode 18.. so there should be a decent lump sum to pay for the flat. anniway, for this flat, if it's gonna cost me about $400,000, the downpayment with reno and furnishing should set me back by $100k.. so if i'm able to get back at least $50k from spottiswoode 18, i'll just need to have savings in cash for about $50k.. wich makes it about MT savings of $800 monthly.. still owe myself $500 monthly from 30 yrs old onwards.
Long term:
it's gonna stay status quo currently..
with only about 1/3 by 30 years old..
if i'm gonna focus on the house, i'll be stuck at this 1/3 for quite a long time.. it's not health.. so no matter what ger, by 30, do a revision and aim for more..
Matters of the heart..
Amazingly.. amazing, amazingly.. normally, any post i blog are filled with Mr Sim's memories.. but i just realised, i haven even thot about him or visualise a future with him anymore.. even for the past 2 days, any thots about him came after this guy that i only met for 3 times. I am so amazed! for the past 4 years, i always chose to stick with waiting for mr sim even if someone who fits who i think i'm looking for comes along.. cos mr sim has always been so precious to me.
but this guy, even thou i dunno him well at all, and have not display any traits that i'm attracted to normally, seems to captivate me. but of cos.. he's not interested in me and he has someone whom he has already discussed which type of housing they will be purchasing.. i guess i should be glad.. God sent someone to test how impt mr Sim is to me.. and has proven to me that Mr Sim is not as close to my heart as i think he is.. it's just that so far, no one can capture my heart like mr sim.. however, this guy managed to catch my attention and makes me yearn to know him better within 3 mtings.. hmm.. issit my own desperation at work?
nonetheless, i now know that mr sim is just a convenient person for me to justify that there's actually no guys who's attracted to me.. hahaa.. on hindsight, looking at this situation, i wish that i didn't express my feelings to him then.. at least, there wouldn't be this change in the friendship.. i wonder, will this feeling change again? i hate being a gemini.. so inconsistent with my thots!
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